Marriage Will Not Fix the ProblemIn my pastoral experience, I have found that many engaged couples expect marriage to fix the problems that exist in their dating relationship.Conflict will evaporate in the atmosphere of marital bliss, right? Wrong.Big-time wrong.Marriage is not going to fix your problems. It will only make them worse.Sorry to burst your bubble.Now […]Read More How to Clear the Drain When Marriage Gets Clogged
If your marriage has a clog in the drain and you feel stuck, you need gospel plumbing skills. My wife, Kristy, and I have learned these skills the hard way. In the video below, I share about how a real clogged drain taught us a powerful lesson about how to deal with our marriage junk. At some […]Read More How are your gospel plumbing skills?
One thing my wife and discuss in marriage seminar is the importance and impact of “the marriage staff meeting.”For example, what if our church staff never connected to meet? Even just to discuss the calendar? The result would be predictable: confusion, isolation, tension, and frustration. It is any wonder that our marriages experience the same […]Read More Do you have a marriage staff meeting? Here is why you should and how you can.
Table of Contents Introduction. 1. ACKNOWLEDGE MY WEARINESS Mothers with Young ChildrenMothers with Older Children2. RECEIVE GOD’S RESTWearing a Yoke Understanding a Formula3. RESPOND TO JESUS’S INVITATIONThe surface burdensThe core burdenConclusion. Introduction. A couple of weeks ago Kristy, Sarah Wynn and I drove up to Chattanooga to help our eldest move into a new house for […]Read More A 3-Part Process for Facing Fatigue: A Message for Tired Mamas (and Anyone Who is Exhausted)
Quick Navigation Longing for a Shared StoryThe Covenantal vs Consumeristic MarriageVows are not a FormalityThe Importance of FoundationsA Better QuestionLet’s Apply ItDiscussion Guide Longing for a Shared StoryBoth sets of my wife’s grandparents were married for over sixty years. What a legacy! Isn’t that what we want to look forward to. Enjoying long life together […]Read More The Secret of the 50-Year Marriage
AN IMPORTANT MESSAGEBefore you listen to the audio message or read this post, I want to make it explicit that there is absolutely no room whatsoever to excuse any form of marital abuse (emotional, physical, financial, verbal, etc.). In a day when domestic violence and abuse is at epidemic levels, we need to let abused women […]Read More A Goalie’s Sacrifice: When Authority is Responsibility and Submission is Grace
My older two kids probably will tell you that I blew this conversation. There are several factors that contributed to my lack of paternal initiative to have this conversation. One, I was scared. Two, I was scared. Three, I was scared. Maybe you will find my struggle encouraging, knowing that you are not alone. When the day […]Read More 4 Talking Points for Discussing Sex with Your Kids
As we think about leadership over the next three Sundays, we are saying that leadership is less about being in charge and giving orders as it is about having influence in the life of another human being.As we think about leadership over the next three Sundays, we are saying that leadership is less about being […]Read More A Mother’s Influence
Mother’s Day. For many, this is a day of celebration and thanksgiving. We have had wonderfully devoted, loving and sacrificial mothers. We have been blessed with children and grandchildren. Yet, for others, it is a day of deep pain, sadness and regret. Some mothers have neglected and abused their children. For these (often adult) children, […]Read More Grace for Those Who Grieve On Mother’s Day
This is an emotion chart produced by The Wellspring Group. It helps us identify how we are feeling so that we can engage the heart more deeply as well as the hearts of our children. This heart engagement allows God to use our emotions to expose us to the gospel at the heart level.Read More Emotion Chart
Here are the eight applications from last Sunday’s message, Redemptive Discipline, that relate to dealing with disobedience in light of the gospel. To listen to the message, just go here. Recognize the wisdom of the parenting pyramid Equip for what we require Expect first time obedience Consider context Provide an appeal process Discern the diff […]Read More 8 Applications from Last Sunday’s Message
This is message #3 in our parenting series, Generation NEXT. Lots of application in light of the gospel that I hope will be helpful.Read More “Redemptive Discipline” • Ephesians 6:1-4 (sermon audio)
We are all familiar with the impact of second-hand smoke. But what about second-hand stress? In a recent survey, researcher Ellen Galinsky interviewed more than 1,000 children in grades 3-12 and asked them, “If you were granted one wish to change the way your mother’s/father’s work affects your life, what would that wish be?” Kid’s […]Read More The Impact of Second-Hand Stress
This is message #2 is our sermon series, Generation NEXT.Read More “Grace Grows Godliness” • Titus 2:11-14 (sermon)
Mother’s Day is tomorrow. For many, this is a day of celebration and thanksgiving. We have had wonderfully devoted, loving and sacrificial mothers. We have been blessed with children and grandchildren. Yet, for others, it is a day of deep pain, sadness and regret. Some mothers have neglected and abused their children. For these (often […]Read More Grace for Those Who Grieve on Mother’s Day
This is the audio from Creekstone’s recent Grace-Centered Marriage Seminar led by my wife, Kristy, and me. It was geared for engaged couples and newleyweds, but is applicable for folks at any stage of marriage. Covering both theological and practical issues, we hope that this material is helpful toward facilitating a more grace-centered experience of […]Read More Grace-Centered Marriage Seminar (audio)